First of all let’s start from the point of view of the newborn, let’s try to understand the reasons for their nervousness. Until recently, he/she lived in a protected and muffled environment, dimmed light, constant temperature, felt secure and contained in the womb, and their mother rocked it gently. All this has just failed them, not to mention the change of breathing, now he/she uses their lungs and the new way of feeding, with a stomach and a gut not yet fully mature, which can sometimes bother. Given the situation, I would say that it is natural that it is a bit more nervous and has some problems to reassure, almost I feel supportive, have just changed all the habits that had calmed and cradled in the womb.
When trying to calm or fall asleep a newborn baby, we must try to recreate as much as possible the reassuring environment of the womb and try to get used to it gradually, gradually to the new external environment. In all cultures we have always tried, certainly in different ways, to do just that, bring the children in the band makes them feel the heartbeat, the heat he/she smells of the mother, the bandages are used to contain the newborn as in the womb, the whispered sounds, the repetitive lullabies or the retouched parcels on the back mimic the noises that the fetus could feel in the uterus, the whistles, the muffled sounds, the beating of the maternal heart etc.
When you have been recovering from sleepless nights, it is hard to believe, but with time everything improves and any child learns to sleep, having this point very present can be of consolation in the most difficult moments.
Here are some suggestions for sleeping baby, how to calm and sleep a baby …
– Before sleeping it is important to relax the baby, do it every evening, at the same time (the habit reassures children), a relaxing bath or a massage will prepare them to sleep. If done in the right way, with tranquility, with delicacy it will not be a duty for the mother, but a moment of both, particular, pampering, intimate.
– When in the womb the baby is used to being in a fetal position, huddled, it is therefore normal that he/she needs some time to get used to lying on their stomach. It is important, however, to immediately get used to this position given the importance it has for the prevention of SIDS.
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– It is important to put the baby in the crib before he/she falls asleep (put it down a moment before, when he/she is relaxed and ready to sleep). I admit that sometimes it is not easy, breastfed newborns often fall off their sleeping breasts, but if the baby falls asleep in their mother’s arms, when he/she wakes up he/she will obviously look for arms that envelop them or ninnate them, feeling themselves in a strange environment. If when you put it down you wake up, console it with your voice and try to give it lightly tapped on the thigh or bottom from the bottom, relaxes the baby and gently accompanies them in the dream world in their crib.
– Many newborns like to feel surrounded, content (the function of dressing). The nurse who helped me with my second daughter, advised me to “block her”, contain it, with a “wrapped” cover around her arms and try to make the cradle smaller, so as to reduce the child’s space, putting a cover rolled along the edges.
“You can try to mimic the sound the baby heard in the womb, the very classic” Ssshhh, Ssshhh. This sound probably reminds the newborn of the sound produced by the blood flowing in the mother’s body, a bit like the rhythmic taps on the back, an effective way to calm a crying baby, remind them of their mother’s heartbeat.
– The pacifier, the suction reflex is essential for calming the newborn, breastfeeding mothers know it well. To make the child, so to speak more independent, you can use a pacifier to help them calm down. The pacifier is not in itself a vice, just remove it at the right time and generally the children leave it fairly quietly between the two and, at most, three years of age (we are often parents more worried about the child).
– Cradling the baby definitely helps to relax it. As you grow, you will diminish the time and amplitude of the movement with which you cradle it, and slowly it will become independent, but now it has just been born and needs you.
– Keep the baby in a baby carrier or in the headband soothe it and let it sleep and allow you to move and do other things.
Growing up the child will develop little by little, thanks to your help, the ability to be independent and do without these external help to relax and sleep. Remember that in the first 4-5 months of life you cannot talk about the child’s vices, at this age a child acquires a habit or changes it over a period of three days.